As a family, we have a lot going on. For this reason, a few months ago, my wife and I sat down to try and figure out how we could get on the same page about what we have going on each weekday evening and weekend.
What we settled on is sharing our Google Calendar’s with each other. I’ve been an avid user of Google Calendar for work for several years. My wife has never kept a virtual calendar, but was quickly able to pick up the basics so that the system can work for us.
We don’t have hard and fast rules about who is responsible for what in terms of adding items to the calendar. In general, most weekends I tend to sit down and make sure all of the kids activities are correct on my calendar. I’m a little more familiar with Google Calendar and things like setting locations and setting up recurring events, and this makes it easier for me to set up practice schedules, add game locations, color code events, and so forth. My wife tends to add things related to the younger crew who are still homeschooled as well as other general family business stuff.
The system works for us. Back in August or September of 2021, it was quite common for us to have confusing and frustrating conversations as we tried to figure out who needed to be where and at what time. It can still be a challenge to keep up with everything, but with this shared view of what we have going on those confusing and frustrating conversations are a lot fewer and farther between.